The most frequent question that I get from women by far is, “How do I meet a quality man?” And, if you’ve been around me long, you know I always answer, “They’re everywhere.”
Sometimes the problem isn’t them, it’s us.
Sorry, but it’s true. In today’s post, I’ll share with you the 3 most common mistakes I see women make that keep them from connecting with good men.
1. You show up as someone you’re not.
This happens when you haven’t quite gotten yet that the ONLY way you will meet your soulmate is to be 100% yourself. (It took me years to get this so no shame if this is you.) Instead, we show up as someone we think we need to be accepted, loved, and seen as good enough.
2. You show up defensive.
I get it, we’ve all been hurt before and that can leave a lady a bit jaded and wary of men. Trust is earned. But the man in front of you didn’t cause you pain.When you show up as defensive, he can’t connect with your heart; he won’t see your glorious light that makes you unique. The quality man is looking for a woman that he feels good around and that he can make happy. He can’t do that if he has to defend himself.
3. You show up in man-mode.
I was a pro at this one. I wanted to show him that I was a better “man” than he was. I was very competitive… I thought it would impress him. I was wrong.When a man is going on a date and looking for a relationship, he wants to meet a woman, not someone that he has to compete with. (Which might be why you end up in the friend zone.) That doesn’t mean you have to pretend to be something less; if you’re a fabulous golfer by all means play your best. This is more about not trying to out ‘man’ him. You can be powerful and also still be feminine.
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