November 20, 2019

Attracting the Love of Your Life

by Janet Tingwald in Dating

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”

Oprah Winfrey

I am guessing that most of you are familiar with, at least, the terms Law of Attraction. A very basic definition is the law that says that everything is energy and like energy attracts like energy.

I’m also guessing many of you have worked on this when it comes to attracting love. You’ve made lists of your ideal partner, you’ve made the vision board, you thought about what life would be like. And, it still didn’t happen, you still haven’t met him and you’re still single.

I’d like to suggest a step in the Law of Attraction that is frequently left out and is the most powerful of all the steps.


Here are three powerful reasons to make noticing what you’re grateful for in your life part of your daily practice.

  1. Gratitude shifts your mindset – looking for what’s right and going well. For something to change in your life, one of two things has to happen: your life changes, or you do.

    Waiting for life to change is a pretty passive solution.

    In your life, you will see what you look for. One of the exercises I often give clients is to see how many loving things they can notice during the day that they do for others, and (this one is often harder) how many they notice others do for them. They are often surprised at the little things people do on a daily basis that we dismiss that can be seen as loving.

    I encourage you to make a daily practice of writing 3 things down that you noticed and feeling the gratitude for the act.
  2. Gratitude creates solutions. Adopting a gratitude practice takes you out of the problem and toward a solution. It removes you from complaining mode and into a best-outcomes mindset. If you always complain about men and how awful they are, I guarantee you that’s what you will continue to get from them. Try focusing on, noticing what nice things men do, do for you. It doesn’t even have to be romantically related, and maybe only one thing, like someone held the door for you. It’s a start. I’ve seen a man genuinely try to give a compliment to a woman and I watched her sneer at him and turn away. It’s okay to politely say, “thank you”, and go on your way.
  3. Gratitude is contagious. When you’re grateful you tend to exude and share that contagious positive energy. This is the light and the energy that attracts the high-quality man you desire. Actually, it’s the energy that attracts all good into your life!

If you’re wanting to make changes in your life consider starting a Gratitude Journal. Every night when you go to bed, write down 3-5 things that you grateful for in your life. (It can even be a little thing like the coffee shop having cinnamon on their courtesy bar so I could add it to my coffee.) Try this consistently for three months and see what happens in your life!

I’d love to hear what happens! Please join my Facebook page at and share your experience.