May 8, 2021

How to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Attracted to You

by Janet Tingwald in Dating, Internet Dating, Relationship

Is he emotionally attracted to you? Or is he in it just for the sex?
Here’s how to tell.

I was working with a client this week and she’s at the point where she’s done the inner work and is ready to get out there and date. A question she brought to our session was, “It seems like there are so many men out there that are just interested in sex, how do I know if he’s interested in me or just wants sex?”

I frequently hear this question from women. It’s a great question because it shows me they’re taking responsibility for their experience in dating. So, I thought about it and I came up with four ways a man shows you that he wants more than sex and is emotionally interested in you.

1. He’s interested in your feelings and well-being.

He checks in with you. He asks how your day was and follows up if he knows your upset. He shows interest, care and concern for you and your life.

2.  He shares the highs and lows of his life with you.

He will talk about his fears and insecurities that he’s feeling. This isn’t about your relationship it’s about his work, or children…other areas of his life. It shows that he feels safe enough with you to open up and be vulnerable. It’s also not about vomiting everything that’s wrong on you either.

3.  He shares his doubts and concerns about your relationship with you.

He may even voice boundaries. If he only has an end game of sex in mind, he won’t bother. An emotionally mature person will bring up things as they come up so there is an opportunity to work through them.

4.  He will move the relationship forward in the direction that is important to you.

Also understand that they do this when it’s a similar direction they want in their life. For example, if it’s important to you to be married, not just co-habitate, he will move it in the direction of marriage if that is something he wants in his life as well. What’s important to you will be important to him.

There are more other things to look for as well, but these are four easy behaviors to watch for from him. These are things that men will do when they are emotionally attracted to you, not just physically.

Remember, men are always revealing themselves to us. Learn what to look for and believe them for a less stressful happier dating experience.