December 27, 2019

The Power of Quality Time

by Janet Tingwald in Relationship

Your partner’s primary love language is Quality Time, it means that they feel loved the most when you spend quality time with them. No brainer, right? Not so fast! Being around them just won’t cut. Neither will the standard movie night. Why? Because quality time is way more than just time, it’s attention. In fact, this love language should probably be renamed to “Quality Attention”, but that doesn’t sound as good.

If you want to show your partner some love and their language is Quality Time, remember the 3 Be’s!

Be Deliberate with Your Time

Turning a suddenly open night or some random free block in the schedule into quality time may not work. Yes, spontaneity and adventure are great, but individuals whose primary love language is Quality Time appreciate the effort and determination you place into that time together.

If your quality time is dedicated and pre-planned, your partner will feel like that time is theirs. It shows that you are thinking of them and want to give them their own special time. That quality time was set aside for them and only them. By doing so, you’re reinforcing the fact that they are most important.

Be Mentally Present

So, you spend some time planning something special, but then you’re on your phone the entire time. Nooope! Remember, more than the time, the attention is what’s most important. If you’re skimming emails, your phone has your attention, not your partner. If you are watching TV out of the corner of your eye at the restaurant, those sports players have your attention, not your partner.

Quality time means putting away the phone and clearing your brain of anything distracting so you can to ensure that your partner is your number one focus!

Be Affectionate

You planned a killer night out together. Check! You turned your phone off and are totally ready for some one-on-one time. Check! Now what? Well, be affectionate! Show your partner you love them. Be playful. Tell them how much you care. Again, show them that they are your world. That attention will go a long way in helping to affirm your love!

Quality Time: Date Night Challenge

Over the next week, we are challenging you to create some quality time together! Shocker, we know.

We do have some rules though. It only needs to be 45 minutes, but you must do it every day. We’ve created a list of 10 options for you below. You can always pick your own, just make sure they all include the 3 Be’s!

Ideas for you Quality Time:

  • Take a walk around the neighborhood.
  • Do a puzzle or play a board game.
  • Find a DIY project to do throughout the week (finishing a little each day).
  • Plan out your next vacation together.
  • Find a new recipe and make it for dinner together.
  • Take a mini road trip.
  • Go stargazing.
  • Make homemade pizzas and eat while you watch the sunset.
  • Write a country song together about your relationship.